The Wedding Weekend
Planning a wedding is already complicated enough. But the growing trend toward “multifaceted” nuptials is making preparation even more laborious. Increasingly, guests are being invited not only to the main event but to additional activities and parties.
“Not only do I think [this trend] is increasing, but I think it’s taking the place of the destination wedding,” says San Ramon–based wedding planner Jon’ette Jordan. “It is continuing to gain momentum.”
Michelle Amorin, a Pleasanton-based wedding photographer, has noticed the trend as well. “Ninety percent of my clients are having several events surrounding their wedding,” she says. These events can include dinner before the wedding, brunch the morning after, horseback rides, yoga classes, and wine-tasting tours.
Another major component of the multifaceted wedding is an elaborate rehearsal dinner. “The etiquette used to be that family members from out of town could come to the rehearsal dinner,” says Denise Duyn, co-owner of Clarissa Bridal in Walnut Creek. “Now it seems to be [that] any guests who are from out of town are invited.”
Weekend-long weddings can make for great fun (and they’re certainly a boon for the wedding industry), but if you’re the kind that dreads three days of schmoozing, Jordan says not to fret. “It is certainly acceptable for a guest not to attend the rehearsal dinner or Sunday brunch. Just be sure to RSVP accordingly.”